On Puzzles and Perfection

During family holidays we do jigsaw puzzles. I like the easy ones, the ones that have pictures that don’t take forever to figure out. But the trend is toward the complex. Have you ever tired to do one of those three-dimensional puzzles? Or a puzzle that is a picture of a big blob of coffee beans? Everything looks the same. You are almost forced to take every single piece one at a time and try to fit it in.

I remember one year when we worked on a very complicated puzzle. I think it had pictures on both sides, so you really couldn’t tell which side of the piece you had in your hand. We struggled for days before we realized that a whole bunch of pieces were missing. We could never have finished the puzzle. We are handicapped right from the start.

That experience reminds me of our usual view of the mysterious will of God. How we agonize over the plan that God has for our lives! It’s like trying to piece together a three dimensional, multi-patterned, both sides jigsaw puzzle where the design is impossibly confusing. After a few years of working on it, we suddenly realize that some of the pieces are probably missing. So we spend a few more years pleading with God to show us the missing pieces. All the while we are ready to throw up our hands and quit. Life shouldn’t be this hard.

The truth is that we have confused the Greek idea of jigsaw puzzle perfection with the Hebrew idea of relationship direction. That confusion is pretty deep in our culture. After all, we are really Greco-Roman, not Semitic Hebrew. Unfortunately, the confusion leads to all sorts of anxiety, decision paralysis, guilt and passive apathy. We start to wonder if God isn’t giving us a puzzle without all the pieces, laughing to Himself as we torment ourselves trying to put it together. It’s time to break this kind of thinking. God is not a puzzle maker. He is the solution, not the problem.

So, how did we get into this state of mind? It all started with the Greek idea of perfection.

What do you think about when someone asks you what “perfect” means? You probably use words like, “complete”, “no mistakes”, “ideal”, “correct” or “totally right”. The Greek idea of perfection is a concept that is based in mathematics. Perfect means absolutely correct, nothing missing. A perfect score is a score that equals the highest possible achievement. A perfect play is a play that corresponds with the ideal. A perfect plan is the plan that covers every conceivable possibility and accounts for them all. Perfection is a relationship where the actual matches the ideal. It’s a statement that the facts are in line with the ideal forms.

Jesus says something about perfection in Matthew 5:48. “Be perfect even as your heavenly Father is perfect”. Suddenly this is a daunting task. It seems to imply that I must be like the ideal, God. My life must correspond to the life of God. Never any sin. Never a mistake. Not one thing out of order. No miscues or insufficiencies. Perfect. A match between the real and the ideal.

And I know that I just can’t do it. Not in a million years. So, I write it off as something only Jesus could do. It can’t be for me.

While that uncomfortable thought is rolling around in my mind, I encounter another Greek myth embedded in Christian thinking. “God has a wonderful plan for your life.”

Before you rise up in protest, take a very close look at the thought here. God has a plan. God has the one, perfect plan for you. It is that one correspondence between His ideal will for your life and the reality that you live. It is the perfect will of the Father. And, of course, since it is the perfect plan, it can only be one way. After all, you can’t have more than one perfect plan. We are stuck in the Greek perception that perfection is the correspondence between the real and the ideal. The perfect plan. The perfect mate. The perfect career or place or ministry. The one of a kind destiny. It’s the “God broke the mold” concept that rules our thinking about who we are.

So what happens to that perfect plan when we screw it up? Why, it’s gone, of course. Perfection destroyed. Paradise lost. We are left with God’s almost perfect plan. Then we mess that one up and we get the third best, then the fourth best, and on and on. If God only has a wonderful plan, all of us are now living out the umpteenth revised version. We blew the perfect plan long ago. Now we have to put the puzzle together with some of the pieces missing.

Hebrew to the rescue! Put aside that Greek notion and look at the real meaning behind the English translation. Matthew 5:48 is a quotation from Leviticus 11:44. The Hebrew word is qadash (holy). “Be holy for I am holy.” Ah, such thoughts still seem to demand perfection, until we investigate a little about the word qadash.

Jesus did not teach in Greek. He taught in Hebrew. And when he quoted the Old Testament, you can be assured that he had the Hebrew thought pattern in mind. Even though the New Testament writers translated what Jesus actually said to Greek, they did not intend us to rethink the Hebrew concepts into Greek categories. We made that mistake on our own.

“Holy” (qadash) is a word that is used to describe what is set aside for God’s purposes. To be holy is to be sanctified, separated, sacred for God’s use. Anything could become holy by being designated for God. Hebrew never required that something first become perfect. In Hebrew, it is not correspondence to the facts that matters. It is dedication completely to God.

Look at the freedom that this brings. My work can be entirely dedicated to God. I can go to the job everyday with serving Him in mind. I don’t have to leave the marketplace and join a convent or become a minister. Dedication to God happens everywhere.

My human relationships can equally be set aside for Him. I am not trapped into the “one perfect mate” syndrome. There are many possible mates for me. The question is not “Which one is the right one, God?” The question is “Am I willing to set aside everything about this relationship to His purposes?”

The lifestyle I adopt is also captured under the banner of separation. Can I live the way I do now and dedicate it all to Him or do I need to make changes so that I honor Him in all that I do? Being holy is putting God first, ahead of everything and everyone, and living in constant submission to divine separation. God is not asking for flawless perfection. He is asking for unwavering devotion. [But unwavering devotion had this funny consequence: I strain toward obedient perfection because I want to please Him].

To see the power in breaking this Greek puzzle, we need to look at 1 Kings 2:3. David is about to die. He instructs Solomon in the most important thoughts about life. He says, “Keep the charge of the LORD your God, to walk in His ways, to keep His statutes, His commandments, His ordinances, and His testimonies, according to what is written in the Law of Moses, that you may succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn.”

Did you catch that last phrase? “That you may succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn.” God is interested in the relationship of separation. He promises to bless you no matter what you do and no matter where you go as long as the relationship of separation is actively in place. There is no perfect plan! There is only holy separation. God doesn’t say, “Now work out the puzzle of life so that you do only what I want you to do and you go only where I want you to go. I have a hidden secret destiny and geography for you and it’s up to you to put the pieces together perfectly.” No! God says, “Do what you want to do. Go where you want to go. Be yourself. Let the way that I made you give you the design and the destination of life. Just be sure to set it all apart for Me.”

Now the fearful among us will rise up and shout, “Oh, no. This can’t be. Look at the risk that is involved in thinking like this. What about all those things that God wants you to do? What about His design for you? How can we just go off and do whatever we want and expect that God will bless it?” This is, of course, a real concern if you think that you can keep the charge of God, obey all His ordinances and decrees, live by His commandments and still do whatever you want to do. Remember that the concept of freedom is found within the confines of holiness. The reason that there is no risk about not fulfilling God’s desires for your life is simple: holiness separates us from any life except the character of life that glorifies Him. The reason that we throw up our hands in fear over such freedom is that we know all too well how easily we subvert true separation for God. The risk is not that God will not direct and use all that we do. The risk is that we will use this freedom as an excuse to do what is not separated for Him.

Holiness is incredibly powerful freedom to do what you desire because what you desire is to be separated to God’s service. Freedom is not license. It is the opportunity to choose whom you will serve. Separation to God creates the freedom to stop trying to find the perfect Greek alignment. Separation to God allows you to explore, invent, plan, design, create, discover and enjoy everything under His banner. This is the incredible secret of grace.

Holiness does not require the correct alignment of all the pieces or the complete match between some ideal and my real experience. Holiness requires that I deliberately set aside everything I am for Him. My thoughts, my decisions, my work, my home, my school, my driving, my career moves, my writing, my talking. God says, “Do what you want to do but dedicate it all to Me.” The plan is an open-ended adventure of living in His world with the freedom to explore it all as a fully dedicated servant of the King.

Suddenly I see a different image in the jigsaw puzzle of life. I see that the goal is not the perfectly completed puzzle but the wonder and joy and excitement of putting the pieces in place. It doesn’t matter if I start at the edges or in the middle or even a little bit of both. What matters is the thrill of discovery as one piece locks into another. What matters is the hunt for the next piece, the victory of finding its place and the empowerment to look again. It’s the adventure not the completion. Holiness is that piece-by-piece decision to honor Him each time I find a fit even if I can’t see the finished product. Life is not about perfection. It’s about perspective, progress and pursuit.

Under the specter of “perfect”, I am doomed to frustration and failure.

But under the banner of “holy”, I live free.

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caroldopray

Oh my. you have hit us with this teaching again and it now has more meaning than ever and of course I am left more confused than ever.

I have been swimming at a fast pace to just keep my head above the waterline so that I won’t drown. I am living in a state of utter aloneness and stand in the center of what is my life, asking, demanding almost, that the Lord show me a new direction to take that will lead me to a new life. Now, it seems, as long as I remain wholey His and holy in my thinking and lifestyle, that I can go in whatever direction I want and discover freedom anew. That’s hard to do when you’re still stunned and stinging.

Okay, so forget that I am “here” (not by my own sin, either) …just forget the past and not let it become a record to be played over and over – concentrate on the NOW and then apply what you just wrote and for some reason, there is not freedom but a new abandonment that has taken over – I am left to fend for myself and try to come up with a survival plan at a time when I am old enough to collect social security and have no other plans for the future than healing and survival and thjen I die. To suddenly have to think that He has no plan for me and I have to come up with a brand new life is not something I find I can call freedom.

So my question is – how can I even begin to change my thinking to see that there is an adventure – in God and in life – awaiting me?

Sadly, like the religous, I am afraid.

ANTOINETTE (Canada)

Dear Sister,
I am 57 yrs. old. I am on a brand new adventure, dedicating all that I experience to Him. I am holy, grafted in to His chosen people, and learning what His Word tells me I should do to be a blessing, to be blessed, and to be free.
I quit my job, gave away all of my possessions, and am going to volunteer in Israel for a year. (God willing) When I come back I have no plans, I don’t really have a place to come back to anymore. But Yeshua, says not to worry, and I feel that I really don’t want to be tied to the western traditions, but see what He has for me if I make myself available. I want the last part of my life to be an unrestricted adventure in Him, where ever it leads, it will be for the good. I am a little afraid too, but also excited for the journey in Him!

Cheryl Durham

Dear Carol,

I read this;

I am left to fend for myself and try to come up with a survival plan at a time when I am old enough to collect social security and have no other plans for the future than healing and survival and thjen I die. To suddenly have to think that He has no plan for me and I have to come up with a brand new life is not something I find I can call freedom.

So my question is – how can I even begin to change my thinking to see that there is an adventure – in God and in life – awaiting me?

Sadly, like the religous, I am afraid.

There are a few assumptions that you make that are not true. You say you are LEFT to fend for yourself….
This is not true, for while God is not making all your decisions for you, He has not left the relationship. He is still actively loving you, and still alive in this relationship. Your choices, dedicated to Him, should acknowledge and be responsive to that relationship…you are NOT LEFT nor are you fending for yourself, God is our rescuer and provider. Perhaps the reason you have no plans for the future except healing and survival first because you are focused on the past…on how you have been hurt and how the world (or maybe God) hurt you. Perhaps you have been waiting for God to make the plans. Get creative! He gave you the life that you have and that freedom of choice. As you live in RELATIONSHIP with Him and dedicate your choices to Him, some of those choices are not as overwhelming as you may think. As you understand the relationship, the love you have for Him sometimes makes the choice for you….think relationship (Hebrew) not isolation (Greek), think love and not abandonment, think together, not alone. WWJD comes from knowing God the way He shows up in His Word and creation. Look…there He is…

caroldopray

Let me add a PS to what I said – I’m writing in my journal this AM re: this freedom of thinking and said
What if You don’t know what you want to do…then what?
What if you’re waiting for HIM to show you what to do next?
What makes me think my gifts and talents are the key to survival? They didn’t work for me before.
How do I go about rethinking my thoughts about where God lives in the midst of this. I still hear people telling me He has a plan and right now I’m not sure there’s a plan if I have to depend on myself to come up with it.
Does anyone understand what I’m trying to say???

Michael

Hi Carol,

Sounds like you are feeling anxiety.

For me that is a sign that I’m not trusting God, that I’m not in the “here and now.”

Remember we cannot control the future, but we can transform our fear into love for God.

You are not perfect but we love you and, more importantly, God loves you 🙂

You might want to get involved with some charitable organization helping others.

Exercise, meditation, and prayer seems to help me when I’m in your state.

I will pray for you and hope that you find some peace soon.

Please take good care of yourself.

Love,
Mike

Kelly Abeyratne

Carol:

Your Question: What if you don’t know what to do? The answer…”wait” and seek His face. How? In His Word, in prayer, and in the fellowship of other believers.

Your Question: What if your waiting for Him to show you what to do next? Answer: Keep waiting. We serve a God Who is present and answers. Keeping in His Word daily and in prayer in the fellowship of others who will speak the Word over your life and into your life.

Your Question: What makes me think my gifts and talents are the key to survival? Answer: They are not the key to survival. Jesus Christ is the answer. Jesus is the key. It is HIS gifts and talents working in and through you at His appointed time and place.

Your Question: How do I go about rethinking my thoughts about where God lives in the midst of this? Answer: You go to God’d Word to change the way that you think and to train your mindset to the way Christ thinks. It will be the Holy Spirit in relationship with His Word that will speak and direct your life to go His way. When you are in the Scripture daily and consistently, you will never miss that He has a plan for you and that He is working it out. It’s an appointment with Christ each day to open His Word. In fact, it is His will that you do. SO, when you are in His Word, you are in His will. HE speaks through His Word into your life.

He loves you Carol, and I’m praying still.

I found in the dark night….greater grace!
Your sister in Christ,
Kelly

Jane

Amazing information. This removes the stress of “trying to do the right thing – at the right time – in the right place” and the fear of missing the mark because of my limited wisdom. Also, this changes my perspective on life by elevating me to another level of understanding God. Freedom is increased with the correct perspective and I’ll be more relaxed and easier on myself. I intend to copy/paste several points and keep them before me as I continue to pack to move to Florida. A widow of 15 months – assuming the role of pastor of my husband’s church – and recently resigning the church to find direction for my life – naturally, my thoughts have been: “is this the right thing to do – what will happen to me – how can God use me.” I appreciate the statement in this article: “The risk is not that God will not direct and use all that we do…” I have made the statement, “I know this is a risk.” I won’t say that again. Your words, “Holiness does not require the correct alignment of all the pieces”…lifts the burden of feeling responsible to put the pieces of the puzzle together before I have all the pieces…..Thank you.

Mary

Carol,
You are on the verge of divine blessing. Look at the apostles, actually LOOK at Jesus. The things they suffered were for our benefit, as an example of what godly gain is; that we might KNOW the glory of God through trial. This world can make the “high life”, even the “ordinary” look pretty good. God’s way is often disguised and elusive when look through the lens of what the world considers “good”. Know this, dear sister, all who enter this Kingdom, so through INTENSE suffering. Also, know there are others who are lifting you before the King and asking the God of all comfort to hover over you.
I would recommend reading 1Peter. This book is dedicated to those who were suffering and being persecuted for their faith. Peter thought he had it all mapped out. But the loving and kind Master knew Peter’s heart and orchestrated situations to bring Peter to his place of destinty. So He does with you and all those who belong to Him. He is perfecting HIS plan that you may know Him by degrees of comfort and peace. He is our PEACE and the Holy Spirit is THE COMFORTER. We cannot be conformed to the image of His dear Son, and our LORD without this suffering. Don’t be fooled into thinking all is warm fuzzies and smiles. Our greatest growth in the LORD comes through enduring the suffering and shame. THEN you will be able to comfort others, having been there. THEN you will be able to tell the good news of the gospel, Jesus redeemed us from this present world INTO His marvelous light! This is our sanctification, this is for the “perfecting” of the saints for holiness. Know we love you and He cares for you!
Bless you dear Sister.

Drew

Ahh … the question of the ages for believers …. what is the plan!

Yep …. been there and struggled time and time again. I finally woke up after a long time and realized that the plan is not some “other thing” going on external to my life … it is my life and the plan calls for me spreading the kingdom in the context of “my life”…. as best I can with His power for His glory!

I sadly know people who have for years been waiting on “the plan” to be understood or unfold. In reality the plan is here … right now … and it does not matter if, by the standards of this world or my own personal expectations, things are relatively good or not so good. The Will of Abba is not bound by our personal circumstances. As Paul stated … he knew how to be content when he had much and when he had little. What was important was that the plan … the Will of Abba shined forth!

As far as suffering …. I had no idea what suffering was until I began caring for and loving humanity. First with family … then to community members and then friends and then to the mountains of people who are unknown. So much heartache and longing for their healing, their need for blessings and most importantly their redemption. I don’t know about others but I am often times fearful for others … and it is very disconcerting!

It is hard to care … it is hard to love … it is hard to bear witness to the Gospel when the only way to do this so (for me anyway) is to expose what I was …. to relate to others what I could not control on my own … how hopelessly useless I was in making myself peaceful!

I have been asked about G_D’s plan by people at times and I tell them straight up …. it is a function of coming back to him (no shocker here). Then I get the old … “well you can’t prove this redemption/faith thing at all can you?” And then I have no choice but to relate that G_D is real! I know this as a fact! I am living proof because I, and others, know what I used to be … oh the shame of it all …. and that shame was inescapable without the power of ELOHIM … can’t do it on your own … no how no way! As such …. the change is the proof. G_D = The Power Of Transformation!

So if we are for Him then who can be against us?

This does not mean as Skip points out that life will be one big joyride … on the contrary it will be a hard road even with abundant blessings because of the chaos all around us and the pain it causes the Spirit within us. Even with blessings this world will be our enemy and in a temporal sense there is little fun in being the world’s enemy!

We must remember that only …. later …. will He remove every tear from our eyes … in the meantime this can only mean that we will all have our share of tears!

But … later will come … and it will be forever! The more I think about it the more I like G_D’s plan!

Sorry about the rambling …. got carried away a bit! Then again I can blame Skip … he is the one who stirs up such emotions and contemplation! 🙂

Michael

Good morning Skip. Good point.

Speaking of “things,” when I say that mind and spirit are two different things, I falsify.

Unlike body, there is “nothing” on the other side of the two “words,” mind and spirit.

Which brings me back to Paul, or possibly “Tim,” in Romans 12:1:

“Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, {which is} your spiritual service of worship.”

I liked your interpretation of “body” as evil “action” the other day, but don’t see any evidence for it in the text.

Sounds to me like Father O’Toole, San Berdoo, St Anne’s Church 1957: Body = Flesh = Sex = Evil.

He said “sacrifice it.”

That does not sound at all to me like Paul, someone who thinks in terms of the “yetzer ha’ra.”

As I understand it, the yetzer ha’ra is a desire to serve my self/ego; and it doesn’t go away.

Seems to me that I could sacrifice my false self/ego on the altar, but that is not what Paul says.

Michael

Hi Skip,

Thanks. That’s very clear. Yes, I tend to say there are two different “things” (mind and spirit).

And I think there is a sense in which they are not things, and that for me they are not always easy to differentiate.

For example, you said you liked the concept of the collective unconscious.

Do you think of it as mind or spirit? For me it seems like a different language for talking about the same things.

Thanks again,
Mike