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Bessy’s “Thank You”

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013 | Author:
I received this email from Bessy.  You will remember that we as a group helped her after the sudden death of her husband in Honduras.
“When I saw the “stuff” I saw that most of it were things of little monetary value, but I know that if I had been the one sorting things I would have had a much harder time deciding what to keep and what to throw away. It was very sad to see a lifetime reduced to a few boxes, but at the end, all lifetimes are reduced to boxes – even we get placed in one. It was hard to go through his things, and I understand how much pain you saved me by discarding things that would have probably ended in some sort of shrine somewhere, useless things of someone we loved once.
Thank you. I don´t have your word skills, I can´t express how I feel. You stood between me and a lot more pain. You moved strangers to stand there with you to protect me and keep me from further harm. May God bless you.”

Bessy’s Continuing Story

Monday, July 09th, 2012 | Author:

Problems with the server prevented this message from going out earlier, so if you read it online, I am just resending it as an email.

After many trials and lots of unexpected alterations, Bessy has decided that she cannot come to Wilmington, NC, to recover the possession of her deceased spouse.  So, those of you who offered to help her in Wilmington, NOW I NEED YOU to let me know who you are so I can arrange for you to join together in Wilmington soon and pack up everything in the storage unit and ship it.

I will take care of all of the costs – boxes, tape, etc. plus shipping if needed (someone else is also working on this).  I just need to know that YOU ARE WILLING.  It must be done before the end of July.  I am sure with a few able bodies it can be accomplished very quickly and this will be a tremendous relief to Bessy.

So, send me an email    skipmoen@mac.com

if you are able to help in Wilmington.

 

Thanks.

Skip

 

Update on Bessy Bendana

Monday, June 11th, 2012 | Author:

I LOVE THIS COMMUNITY!!  It simply thrills me to see compassion in action and to know that NO ONE falls through the cracks here.

YOU have made such a difference for Bessy.

In 24 hours (about), we have

miles for a ticket,

shipping covered

hands-on help in Wilmington

and funds to cover everything and more.

From Australia, Ireland, New Zealand, South Africa, England, and all over the United States.

Thank you, P, I, A, A, S, K, G, P, D, M, T, F, R, V, P, S, D, B and all the rest of the alphabet names.

YOU ARE WONDERFUL, RIGHTEOUS PEOPLE and I am proud to be a part of what you do.

Skip

 

How to Help Bessy

Saturday, June 09th, 2012 | Author:

As you know, Bessy’s husband died in an accident just a few weeks ago.  We were all praying for him when he disappeared.  It now appears that for some reason his car went out of control and he was killed instantly in the crash, but the car went over a cliff and it was four days before they found him.  Bessy is a dear member of our community.  Now it’s time to help her.

I just spoke with her this moment.  She asks for continuing prayer.  The blow to her boys has been terrible and all the family has suffered.  He was only 48.

Italo lived in the United States for some time and he has a storage unit in Wilmington, NC.  Bessy now needs to travel there, sort out his possessions and ship what she will keep back to their home in Honduras.  She needs:

1. Money for the air ticket

2. Money for shipping things back

3. A recommendation for a shipping company

4. Any additional assistance from someone close to Wilmington if necessary

If you can help, please let me know.  You may email me or respond to this notice with a reply.  We are committed to do exactly these kinds of things for everyone in our community, widows especially, as the Lord commands.

Thank you.

Skip

 

Your Advice Taken

Thursday, May 28th, 2009 | Author:

Thank you all so much for offering your helpful suggestions.  Bessy and I have gone over every comment. Many offered insights into cultural issues, help with the next step and other useful suggestions like sponsorship.  Here’s what we have come to believe:

1. Most of the 250 readers are NOT in the poorest of the poor. They have cell phones, computer access, etc.  They are what we would consider “middle class” in a country where the middle class is very small but not under the abject poverty on the masses.  These people are often involved in serving the masses of poor.

2. The culture endorses “free” which leads to entitlement and we do not want to support that – it isn’t good for the community and leads to an individual “what’s in it for me” mentality. We Christians have preached a free grace gospel so long that we no longer believe there is a cost to grace. There is. It cost God His Son. But we are now endorsing a “give me” gospel.  This is not what it means to be part of the Body.

3. There is little real value placed on spiritual things in this environment – other priorities take over – this is true in churches and with Today’s Word.  This is perfectly understandable with the wretched poor.  They are in survival mode.  But our readers are generally not in this situation.  Sacrifice is also part of the Body.  Without it there is little real spiritual growth.

4. There are real “need” cases, none of which we will ever turn away.  All they need to do is ask.

5. The support we are asking for is NOT for Today’s Word or At God’s Table or me – it is for their own community – so that we are able to do things in that community that fall through the cracks like we do in the English speaking community.  We want to encourage members of the Body to act like the Body.  That is the purpose of Today’s Word – to put hands and feet on the Scripture.

6. The cost to provide the above is relative to the culture, so $20 does a lot more there than here.  Nevertheless, there is still a cost.  We have born this without asking for anything for 4 years now.

7. We don’t care about the money (other than for #5 above).  We care about the VALUE to the community. Without any response, the perception is that there is little value placed on this effort.  Since Bessy lives in this culture, I value her opinion on the cultural issues we face.  Today’s Word is not a “ministry” in the classical sense – given away at someone else’s expense.  We did that for 7 years.  What we want to build is a community of believers who learn together and work together for the benefit of each other.  OUr community does not have to support bricks and mortar, salaries and overheads.  We support each other.  That’s what we believe is the biblical model – the fruit from each life supports the other lives.

8. I doubt that most of the 250 readers are using internet cafe access or that they can’t afford the access – I have met a lot of them.  While they earn little compared to our USA standards, I don’t know a single one who cannot give anything at all.  And since the giving is merely a sign that they want to help build the Body in Central America, I don’t believe God expects us to enable a culture of receivers. Meat, not milk.  No more baby bottles.

9. When we decided to move to a donor model in the USA, there were 5000+ readers. Now there are 500. Everything is better. People care for each other. The teaching is real and makes a difference in behavior. I wouldn’t have cared if we had 12, but God answered that decision and we have grown by 150%. It never happened until we said, ”Make a commitment.”

10. I think that “opt-in” may be a reasonable alternative, but it does not meet the goal of #5 and, basically, they have had 4 years of “opt-in.”

11. I think transactions by internet may be a problem, but we might overcome that with some alternative. I don’t know how to do this yet, but I don’t think that this explains the lack of response from 95% of the readers.

So, we are going to explain once more that this is about the Body, supporting and committing to the Body of believers in your own culture where you have first-hand experience.  We are going to ask once more for some sign of commitment, either write to us and ask or send some donation that we can use to help each other.  And then we are going to cut the list in a week or so.

Bessy has never received any funds for her labor.  I have never taken a salary from At God’s Table.  It’s time for the Spanish community to realize this and support this effort – principally Bessy – because they all benefit from her work, and a workman (or woman) in God’s service deserves to be taken care of by those served.  She has agreed to continue to translate even if there are only a handful.  I hope that will not be the case, but I firmly believe that it’s time to stop this entitlement thinking in Christian circles.

Thank you again for all your input.  It is wonderful to see so many who have a heart to help.  If you do wish to sponsor someone, we can do that, but my guess is that what really would matter would be to sponsor Bessy’s work.  She will be the one adding those who wish to stay but cannot donate.

May the Lord be blessed.  May His name be lifted up.  And may His people reflect His character.  We are ready and willing to give of ourselves, but we know that the objective is to pass along the willingness to give, not the gift.

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