Illegitimate

Your servant my father said to us, ‘You know that my wife bore me two sons; Genesis 44:27  NASB

My wife– Sometimes we just read over critical details in the text because we know the stories so well.  As a result, we don’t experience the emotional impact in the text.  We end up with the Sunday school version—theologically correct and emotionally impotent.

This verse is a perfect example of not reading what it says.  Let’s set the context.  Judah is the speaker.  He stands before Zaphnath-Paaneah, Egypt’s second most power lord (who we know is really Joseph).  Judah is pleading that Benjamin not be forced to come to Egypt.  In his speech, he reveals a startling admission of a fractured family.  Describing his father, Jacob, he says, “My father said to us, ‘My wife bore two sons.’”  Did you read that!? Jacob told his own children that he had one wife, the wife of the two sons who mattered to him.  Joseph and Benjamin count.  The others don’t.  In fact, Jacob doesn’t even acknowledge that their mothers were also his wives. As far as their father is concerned, the other ten boys are illegitimate.

You cannot understand this story unless you come to terms with its emotional details. Can you imagine what life was like in this “family”?  We already know that Jacob hated Leah.  Yes, that’s right. The text of Genesis 29:31 is often translated “Leah was unloved,” but that isn’t what it says in Hebrew. The verb is śānēʾ.  It means, “to hate.”  Jacob retains a life-long hatred for this woman who stole his true love, Rachel, from him on his wedding night.  You might also ask yourself about Leah who is willing to deceive her sister’s husband and who pretends to be her sister when the light is out.  Oh, and just so you see the connection (which is the way Hebrew stories are written), Leah pretends to be someone else just as Jacob pretended to be someone else.  She mimics Jacob’s deception.  The deceiver is deceived.  No wonder Jacob hates her.  She is him.

Now we recognize that the children of Leah are considered insignificant by their own father.  Now the emotional tension of this fractured family helps explain why the sons of Leah hated the children of Rachel.  Now we can see why they had no remorse about selling Joseph to the Midianites and telling their father that he died.  And now we know why Judah, whose own sons were taken from him, finally admits to the world that he and his brothers have lived in a home where they weren’t really wanted.

All in one tiny phrase, “my wife.”

And now one more connect-the-dots Hebrew clue.  Laben brings Leah to Jacob. Jacob does not ask her to come to him, nor does he expect her.  Someone else arranges the marriage.  Do you see?  “The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man and brought her to the man” (Genesis 2:22).  Doesn’t Leah reflect Havvah?  Isn’t she the one who disrupts the man’s self-contained tranquility?  Doesn’t she force him to confront his own sense of divine control?  And then there’s this:  the Messiah does not come from the line of the “two sons.”  He comes from the line of the sons who didn’t count.  What do you make of that?

Topical Index:  Jacob, Leah, Rachel, Judah, wife, Genesis 44:27

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Mark Randall

Sorry everyone, my wife just informed me that this TW from today didn’t go out.

Michael Stanley

So I can stop praying that the reason we didn’t get yesterday’s TW was that a preying lion ate Skip’s homework …or Skip (or his prideful prayer was more fervent than mine). Is there a way (or a who) anyone of us can contact if The Chimp is a chump and doesn’t deliver the mail in a timely manner ?
The 911 lady threatened to go Postal on me if I ever called her again regarding a missing TW.

Marsha S

Well I guess we know the lions didn’t eat Skip! 🙂

Cheryl Olson

The implications of the entire TW is mind boggling! From the very beginning God created a tension in humanity and we all think that if we can just be diplomatic we will all get along. A side note that is a bit off track but, I heard a teacher once say that Leah knew the real love of her husband one night and never again. He thought she was Rachel that first night and and showed her a genuine love that one night and what she experienced every day after that left her longing for his love again. Sad! Seeing the emotional trauma in the bible is eye opening and a bit of a relief knowing that our heroes had the same struggles and dysfunctions we have and at the same time very disturbing. Sigh…

Richard Heers

And so, the Messiah was born so that all who were out of the Jewish family could be welcomed in… and that included me! Thank God for His amazing grace!

Meg

I love the TW. Dysfunctional families didn’t start in the 20th century. Jacob had children that acted out and not just as children either. It is a sad story. Thanks for connecting the dots. For the connections. Leah and her sons experienced hurt and pain, but I hope Leah was able to look over the horizon.

Marsha S

I feel sorry for Leah being in a marriage with a man who did not love her. And I feel the childrens’ pain of not being loved. We see this played out in the modern world today.

Judi Baldwin

To say that the other 10 sons “didn’t count” feels like a huge assumption. Clearly Jacob loved Rachel more, but that doesn’t mean the sons of Leah (6), Zilpah, her maid, (2) and Bilhah, Rachel’s maid, (2) didn’t count. Jacob knew he was carrying on the legacy of the Abrahamic covenant and felt that huge responsibility. He knew he was the person God chose, which is why he fought his brother Esau, both in the womb and, for the birthright, even though his methods weren’t alway exemplary. While it’s never ideal, many parents favor one child over another, and Jacob knew he was building a nation through his sons. Absolutely, they counted! In Genesis 49, we read about the blessings and prophetic descriptions of the future he gave to all his sons before he died…some more positive than others. None of us can say for certain how Jacob felt about his sons, but he knew every one of them mattered and were part of God’s plan and covenant. As Skip said in a recent TW, “It was never God’s intention that we be kept clean from the world’s mess. We aren’t very useful clean. Detours are agents of restoration.” “Tamar Comes First” 11/18/18

Judi Baldwin

Yes, absolutely. There is little doubt that sibling rivalry is what led to the brothers decision to drop Joseph into a pit…eventually sold into slavery. Yet another example of how God can use man’s evil for His purposes. And, I suspect it pleases Him greatly when we look back and connect the dots…realizing that His plans move forward with or without our help.

Alfredo Quevedo

the Messiah does not come from the line of the “two sons.” He comes from the line of the sons who didn’t count. Yes According to the flesh , but the Messiah has another distinct role… Isn’t Yeshua the son of Joseph? ?

Caley S

A pattern in my life is the illusion of a relationship. I always get disappointed. I think the person has some answer for me, then I find out I am their answer in some way. This has been a constant theme.

Laurita Hayes

Just a little note of clarity: when the text says “Esau have I hated” it doesn’t mean God didn’t love Esau; it just means that he was positioned as LESS THAN Jacob. Leah, too, was positioned as less than Rachel.