Loss Prevention
And turning His gaze toward His disciples, He began to say, “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God. Luke 6:20 NASB
Poor – Matthew translates Yeshua’s statement differently. In Matthew’s Greek, the text says ptochoi pneumati. He needs this added bit of Greek because his reading audience is Jewish and he must distinguish in Greek one of the four different words for “poor” in Hebrew. But Luke doesn’t have this problem. He’s writing to a Gentile audience. His choice of the Greek ptochoi is enough.[1] For the Gentile audience, ptochoi expressed the destitution of the beggar, something quite familiar to the Gentile world (even today) but summarily feared and avoided if at all possible. In other words, even to the Gentiles Yeshua claim that the ptochoi are lucky seems completely absurd.
Since the Church converted these sayings into spiritual “attitudes,” we have been taught that they are either steps toward a repentant heart or laudable moral virtues. But perhaps we are a bit too quick to turn these citizenship descriptions into spiritual mantras. Let’s consider another approach.
Suppose we look at the condition and character of the ptochoi. What is it like to be a beggar? I don’t mean what kind of physical situation describes a beggar. We all know what that looks like (or at least we think we do). I’m asking a different question. What is the psychological and emotional experience of the beggar? In other places I have argued that the fundamental condition of ptochoi is desperation. The beggar cannot afford pride. His existence depends on raw vulnerability. His appeal to the benefactor’s compassion must be pure, unadulterated humility. And in this state, he may encounter another psychological necessity: the need to mourn.
“An unwillingness to mourn leads one to abdicate from language and from the pain it represents. As Adam Phillips succinctly phrases it, ‘Depression is a self-cure for the terrors of aliveness, of being alive to one’s losses and therefore to one’s desires.’ Denial mechanisms are ‘forms of anesthetic, unconsciously sustained poverties of language that pre-empt a knowledge of feeling.’ Kristeva speaks of the ‘despondent intoxication’ that greets idealized versions of the old love.”[2]
A beggar for God, Yeshua’s description of the first condition of a Kingdom citizen, knows what it means to experience loss, to encounter the pain of being alive in a broken world, to recall what might have been. But this isn’t the only kind of mourning that Kingdom citizens face. There is another mourning, the mourning over past disconnection, past self-concern, past deliberate arrogance, past denial. This is the mourning of the grief of God’s absence in our preoccupation with ourselves. A beggar for God knows not only what might have been but also what was. Both cut to the heart.
If we can’t talk about our experiences of loss, if we pretend that life goes on without the pain of separation from once-held desires and hopes, and the remorse over our failures to engage the yetzer ha’tov, then we fail to enter into that promised rest because we don’t allow language to bridge the gap between our internal trauma and our external masks. We need to mourn over our past self-idolatry. God heals through words but those words must be filled with the personal inventory of regret. Perhaps that’s why “blessed are the poor” is followed by “blessed are those who mourn.” You can hardly have beggars for God who have not experienced the next of the Beatitudes.
Topical Index: poor, ptochoi, mourn, Luke 6:20
[1]See the Appendix in my book, The Lucky Life https://skipmoen.com/books-audio/beatitudes-book/
[2]Avivah Gottlieb Zornberg, The Murmuring Deep: Reflections on the Biblical Unconscious, p. 60.
Skip, Your words “know(ing) what it means to experience loss, to encounter the pain of being alive in a broken world, to recall what might have been” oscillate wildly and reverberate loudly with the waves of my experience to
resonate somewhere deep inside of me. Thank you.
John Piper once advised: “Occasionally, weep deeply over the life that you hoped would be. Grieve the losses. Feel the pain. Then wash your face. Trust God. And embrace the life that He has given you.”
I got the first 4 down pretty well. Still working on the last 2.
Good morning Skip and Michael, for me it’s the word beggar dot-dot-dot dot dish word reminds me of how my brother-in-law share the good news. He would say it is like one bigger who has a cup of coffee, showing another beggar where he got it. Coffee wakes us up and keeps us moving, but it only sustains us for a little while. Yeshua offers us life, and this life is the moment we receive it it is not our own, so we learn from it and give it away.. reminds me of Yeshua and the woman at the well. Drink from this water and you will never thirst again, Yeshua was speaking of himself. Living Water. Just a note … My brother-in-law, was used at the Lord to bring the entire family into the experience of New Life. Hallelujah 3 years, we call it the Messianic window. Shalom
Michael, I would love for you to wash your face and then be anointed with the oil of joy for mourning and a garment of praise for that spirit of heaviness. Your pain and your story deeply resonates with me. I find myself praying for you and longing for you to have abundance in your life.
Michael, just read your comment. At first I reacted to your quote by John P.
I thought to myself and probably out loud I don’t weep deeply over the life that I hoped would be, I weep deeply over the life I lived, with great regret and mourning! But then I thought, maybe I need to weep over the life I could’ve lived?! But then, that’s not true either. Because that’s just a thought, a dream or an idea. I can only deal with what was, not what I hoped it would be! It would be similar to saying “if only I would have….” to a certain degree, it is what it is and that’s what we live with! I wonder if John Piper was speaking from personal experience or just a good sounding idea !!?
Sleeping Beauty didn’t have to wake up until she got kissed by the prince: she got to sleep through all the bad stuff. That, y’all, is the best the world can hope (um, dubious use of that word!) for. Even that hope is a delusion, however, for life does not work that way: we don’t get to sleep walk until we win the lottery or everybody likes us or the mirror tells us we are pretty. Waking up to reality is inevitably brutal and can even be deadly for some of us (if we try it ‘on our own’, anyway).
I think most of us manage to stay in altered states of reality (addictions) pretty much until we are staring right at that oncoming train. AA calls it “the bottom”, and I haven’t found a better description of most of us life babies’ first take on reality, which is when we have avoided our approaching death (on our trajectory of origin, anyway) as long as possible AND HAVE FAILED in our attempt to follow the world’s prescription for ‘handling’ reality (the world doesn’t have any good way to do that, of course, but didn’t we all, at some point, still ‘hope’ that it did?)
The first gasp of reality’s air always hurts: it hurts every bit of our fracture with it (I know every sin in me was just as horrified and terrified as it thought it would be!). Who of us felt happy the first time we had to admit how poorly we agreed with the way things really were (humility)? Shame, guilt, fear, unforgiveness, etc. (which I think make up the pain that inhabits every inch of the space disfunction created) are the pains I suspect we try to avoid more than any other pain because they are the pains that reveal to us how poorly we are really functioning – really loving in real time and space – I mean, who wants to admit that?
I think we practice addictions and other ways of rolling the dice of our disaster (more sin) mostly to avoid experiencing the pain of the last poor choice’s result: to avoid our true “poverty”; much less having to “mourn” about it or experience the humility (“meekness”) it takes to process that pain.
To me, the Beatitudes are not as much a prescription for us as a description of how the new birth is ordered. I think they reveal the natural order of progression of rebirth; of waking up in real time and space and returning to function – to love – in a world (and ourselves) gone bad. Ouch, ouch, ouch!
Skip and you have challenged and inspired me today with truths that have pinpointed and penetrated dysfunction in my innermost parts. This is division of soul and spirit because the thoughts and intentions of my heart have been judged and found wanting. You’ll find me in the recovery room.
Laurita, I really appreciate your statement “waking up to reality is inevitably brutal and can be deadly for some of us who try it on our own”.
I really connected to what you said, although basically I pretty much did it on my own and it almost killed me! Thank you for making yourself so vulnerable without a whole a lot of detail or disclosure, I can tell you have been there! God is so graciously allowing me to hear these things from other people so that I don’t feel so foreign. Your experience is a great benefit to my current experience and walk with God. These issues sorry to say are not addressed in your typical church. The wounded walk out of the church still painfully wounded! Thank God for Skip and this community of people. Salvation.
Praise God from whom all blessings flow!
So true and this instruction from the gate keeper to the Kingdom of YeHoVaH. Yeshua (=Salvation) Who, is sharing a path, a path into a kingdom not of this world; one simultaneously coexisting but mutually exclusive from it. They each are centered differently, have a different focus, a different heart a different king .
We are being presented with the process to change our own hearts, a process of restoration and preparation for the transition from one kingdom into another. To serve a different master.
It starts with repentance, moves through loss, trouble and suffering. We begin to realize that “Denial mechanisms are ‘forms of anesthetic, unconsciously sustained poverties of language that pre-empt a knowledge of feeling.’ Real true feelings. We must die to our pride and feel true humility. We move into a form of death, then into a place of mourning. ” The mourning over past disconnection, past self-concern, past deliberate arrogance, past denial. This is the mourning of the grief of God’s absence in our preoccupation with ourselves.”
The net conclusion is a death to self-life. This to bring us into a true life. God’s life-emerges, we emerge to enter into a new life, one lived in his way, one motivated by the heart, word and will of YeHoVaH. That is a spiritual RESURRECTION. Ah the walk and life and above all the Cross of Christ so illustrative of the path into the true Kingdom of YeHoVaH…
Neither let us never forget the words of King David. “We enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise”. Hallelujah!
You said, “we need to mourn over our past self idolatry “. This has been one of the areas of process that God has been taking me through over the past 2 years. Extremely painful but I believe necessary to my restoration and growth! Psalm 51. Owning up, mourning and releasing ! What a better way to experience the incredible grace of God !
Thank you so much Skip !
For some reason I didn’t receive today’s word. I had to go hunting for it at the bottom of the page.? ?